IT REALLY ALL STARTS WITH YOU...

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Our Director, Victoria Fox was offered the opportunity to share her thoughts and experiences in an interview with the The Life Style Edit. To read about the MISS FOX philosophy and the importance of Self Care, see the full interview below.


IN CONVERSATION WITH | VICTORIA FOX: FOUNDER AND DIRECTOR OF MELBOURNE DAY SPA, MISS FOX

On our recent trip to Melbourne, we were lucky enough to not only visit MISS FOX, a stunning Melbourne CBD day spa, but to receive a couple of treatments whilst we were there.

Trust me, if you're going to be in Melbourne soon then this is a "Must Read" and "Must Visit" location that should be on your hit list. Read on....

In the middle of the bustling city across a Melbourne lane way and behind an inconspicuous door, up a steep flight of stairs you'll find yourself in the urban oasis that is MISS FOX. We were so impressed by the business - it spoke to all parts of who we are as individuals at TLSE - that we decided to delve in a little deeper through an interview with founder, Victoria Fox, and get to the core and concept of this beautiful space and the power of self care in our busy world.

[TLSE] Tell us a bit about MISS FOX, and the story behind your brand? 

[VICTORIA] MISS FOX began as a vision — a beauty wonderland that I dreamed existed, but didn’t. Inspired by my travels across the US and Europe, I wanted to create, and experience, a one-stop destination to help you look and feel your best, where all your needs were truly cared for. As it turns out, what started me off in the beauty and wellness industry 10 years ago was an extremely unpleasant, uncaring and traumatic experience. I never wanted any woman to experience that, particularly give how vulnerable and intimate the process of beauty and Self Care can be. 

We have crafted a safe, nurturing and magical sanctuary of Self Care — treating body, mind and spirit in 5-star style, with deep heart and soul. At MISS FOX you can experience holistic and empowering Self Care therapy, with a luxury suite of grooming, spa, skin, health and wellbeing services — all mindfully selected and magically combined for radiant beauty, within and without. We’ve now won multiple awards for our work, including most recently being crowned World’s Best Beauty Salon 2018 in the World Spa Awards.

For the spiritual amongst us that realise the importance of the little things (for example, the way you have priced treatments from $222, $333, $444 etc), can you give us the low down on the meaning behind this and why it was an important aspect of your business?

Whilst I have always believed in the wonder of the Universe and looked for the magic of everyday, 4 years ago I experienced a profound awakening which helped bring the spiritual aspects of my being in line with the the mental and physical elements (the parts had been getting all the attention!). This encouraged me to invest in practices such as Yoga (I am now a qualified teacher), radically change my diet and lifestyle, begin meditation, study Reiki (I am also now a qualified practitioner), and begin working  with crystals and plants again (which I had done as a child). 

Repeating numbers are a form of synchronicity — showing you that the mental and spiritual realms of your world are starting to integrate. Have you ever really wanting something, and it then magically played out that you received it? Thought of someone, and then they called? Needed a break, and then got one? Is it always 2:22, 3:33 or 4:44 when you check the time? These things are’t just luck or chance, they are the messages and powers of the conscious and unconscious mind manifesting in the physical. From crystals to numbers to mantras, to lots in between, we integrate spirituality in our services because it's a part of who we are — it’s a part of who we all are.

Why was this a service you felt compelled to create?  And why is this a cause so close to your heart?

This is hard to answer, because after working in corporate for 10 years, I would never have dreamed that I would find myself in the beauty industry — which I found once I entered could be very ugly indeed. I felt that the industry needed to be redefined, and we have done that through our positive messaging, luxury experiences, exceptional hygiene and safety, a deep element of love in everything we do, and bringing everything back to Self Care. I believe that Self Care is how you get to know yourself, and how you know yourself is how you know the universe.

Ultimately, MISS FOX is a space where people take care of themselves for themselves. A place where what is on the inside counts as much as what is on the outside, and a place that doesn’t just look good, it feels good and it does good.

We work with suppliers that care and products that are mindful, not just marketable.  We give every month to social and environmental causes all over the world. We teach our team to be their best selves so they can be a template for others. We listen to our instincts and intuition for guidance on how to run our business. MISS FOX will always be close to my heart because it’s an expression of my values, what I believe in, and ultimately, who I am.

How would you say your brand has evolved over the last few years? 

As I have evolved, so has the brand. As our guests have evolved, so has the brand. Customer care has always been at the heart of our work, and what we are known for. The expansion of our menu from traditional grooming and spa treatments to holistic therapies such as nutrition, counselling, life coaching, crystal healing, reiki, yoga, and now astrology and women’s circles is natural and needed based on my relationship with myself, and our guests’ changing relationship with the world.

MISS FOX grounds itself through holistic approaches to self care. How do you personally achieve this ethos?  

Self Care isn’t just candle-lit bubble baths and face masks, though I am certainly a fan of both. Holistic means treating the “whole person” not just a part. All the green smoothies in the world won’t make you healthy if you are speaking negatively to yourself all day, disrespecting your body or ignoring those nagging feelings that “there is more to my life than this”.

To ensure my own life stays holistic in its Self Care strategy, I spread the love to all the parts of my life: physical, emotional, mental, career, relationships, personal truth and spirituality. We have a rainbow of needs within us, so it's important that you keep each area attended to, clear and inspired. I practice and teach Kundalini yoga and meditation, which assists with practically everything, but I also particularly attend to my diet (and re-attend to it after a donut), and attend to my personal development through lots of reading, workshops and study. I am currently part way through a qualification in Holistic Counselling which I am grateful for and constantly inspired by.

In our busy lives how important is nurturing self care? 

The most important project you will ever work on is you, and Self Care is a commitment to yourself to nurture your body, mind and spirit. You are your best self when you are taking care of yourself. Self Care sets you up to succeed, be more productive, more loving, satisfied and happier. It helps reduce stress and anxiety, and stops you burning out — or worse, having a nervous breakdown. The real power of Self Care, however, is in its ability to help you connect with yourself on a deeper level, so you can relate to the world around you with a peacefulness that comes from knowing, and loving who you are. The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Self Care is how you get to know yourself — and there is no relationship more important than that.

MISS FOX is an independent, Melbourne-made and female-owned concept Spa. So to finish off, what’s one message you are passionate about sharing with women?

It really all starts with you. Everything in your world revolves around you. This isn’t a self-absorbed view, because if you cease to exist, your world ceases to exist. How you care for and love yourself is important, and will reflect in everything you do. I truly believe we must be the change we wish to see in the world — the revolution starts with you. Show yourself care, love and compassion, and make magic happen.


FULL MOON IN SCORPIO

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As the warm days dwindle & the darker nights take their place, May greets us with the beautifully transformative Scorpio Full moon. 


Ruled by the planet of rebirth Pluto, Scorpio entices us to explore the hidden mystical realms of our subconcious & search deep within. 


As a Water sign, Scorpio encourages us to be fluid, yet dive deep into the power of self-love, nurturing & intuition. 


Symbolic of spiritual journeying, meditation, dreams, intimacy, divination & ritual, May’s Full Moon is an invitation to lovingly curl up into our cosy nourishing cocoon. 


Through listening to our dreams & imagination; Scorpio helps us re-emerge like a beautiful butterfly, reinventing & rejuvenating ourselves, for life’s next glorious adventure that awaits us. 


Spending time meditating by the Sea, the River, luxuriating in a beautiful candle lite ritual bath, essential oil massages, writing a dream journal, exploring Tarot cards & painting are all perfect ways to partake in this month Luna energy.  

Much luna love Natta x

From our Director

BOUNDARIES ARE BEAUTIFUL

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Your highest Self Care priority should be learning how to set clear and healthy boundaries that will allow you to live in alignment with the truth of who you are, and the way you want your life to generally unfold. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships, a healthy body and an overall healthy existence. They can protect you from toxic people, maintain your energy levels, keep you safe and strong, and help you manage your feelings. Boundaries are truly beautiful, and good ones are the cornerstone of your wellbeing.


What are boundaries?

Boundaries are the energetic and physical space between you and another person. They are the line of where you end and another begins, and where you begin and another ends. Boundaries are also the parameters we set for ourselves within relationships. They can include physical, intellectual, emotional, material, energetic and time boundaries. 

A person with healthy boundaries will have no trouble saying “no” when they want to, but also feel comfortable opening up to close relationships and intimacy. A person who always keeps others at a distance (whether emotionally, physically, or otherwise) is said to have rigid boundaries. Alternatively, someone who tends to get too involved with others has porous boundaries

Healthy boundaries are balanced, and are defined by respecting your own opinions, staying true to your values, knowing and communicating your personal needs, sharing information in an appropriate way (not undersharing or oversharing), an ability to say “no”, and also accept “no” from others. Most people have a mix of different boundary types: for example, someone could have healthy boundaries at work, porous boundaries in intimate relationships, and a mix of all three types within their family unit. 


Why boundaries?

Boundaries are the way we take care of ourselves. Boundaries define a healthy emotional and physical relationship between you and another so that you do not become overly enmeshed, smothered, attached, detached, or feel pressure to be something you are not, as well as maintain your personal identity and uniqueness. At the same time, they protect your right as an autonomous and free individual who has freedom to be a creative, original thinker and live life on your terms.

Healthy boundaries create happy and harmonious working relationships. If you don’t set boundaries, you are giving yourself away. By setting boundaries, we tell people in our lives who we are and what we need. We value ourselves and take a stand for what truly serves our highest good. We stop resenting or blaming others for doing things we don’t want to do, and step out of victim behaviour or toxic relationships that drain us.

People may feel boundaries are obstacles to connection, but healthy ones are the opposite. They enhance relationships and allow you to be, and to honour, who you really are. Boundaries allow you to show up in the world authentically, in your full truth and power. So give yourself the permission to set boundaries and work to preserve them.

The added power in living like this is in how it can inspire and give permission for others to do the same – a ripple effect of people taking a stand for their own self care through clear and healthy boundaries. Bliss.


Types of Boundaries

Having an awareness of what is appropriate to you in different situations is important. The main types of boundaries to consider are:

  • Physical Boundaries: Personal space (your body, your environment) and physical touch.

  • Emotional Boundaries: Yours and other’s feelings, and when and what to share.

  • Intellectual Boundaries: Thoughts and ideas — respect for others as well as your own. Discussion topics (eg politics, religion).

  • Material Boundaries: Money and possessions, including what you will share and with whom.

  • Time Boundaries: How you use your time for work, hobbies, self care, relationships. Who you will share with and how much.

  • Energetic Boundaries: Your psyche and spirit, or spiritual borders. When, how, and with whom we share our energy.

How to create Healthy Boundaries

Most of us don’t know how to set boundaries. We’ve been taught to put others ahead of ourselves, or grew up in households that didn’t teach healthy boundaries. When we move past ingrained habits or fears, we can act from a clean, clear space, so we can enjoy what we want, rather than always reacting or responding to someone else. This can be scary or feel foreign at first, but in time, learning to set boundaries will be the best thing you have ever done.

Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Although new and challenging, with intention and practice, you can learn effective boundary setting to enhance every part of your life


A 5 Step Exercise for Setting Effective Boundaries 

I invite you to follow this activity I created to more effectively establish healthy boundaries between yourself and others. 

    1. Taking several pieces of paper and pen, and identify the boundaries in your life that are rigid or porous that you can improve: Physical, Emotional, Energetic, Intellectual, Material, Time or all of the above. If you are happy with your boundaries in that area, good! Congratulate yourself. Write a heading for the other boundaries in the centre of each paper and draw a large circle around them, leaving some space to write outside the circle too.

    2. For each category, identify and question the irrational or unhealthy beliefs or thinking by which you allow your boundaries to be ignored or violated: eg. “I’m not good enough”, or “I must do everything I can to spend as much time together with my family/partner/business”. Write them in small writing outside of the big circles.

    3. Look at these beliefs: Are they true? Turnaround those beliefs: think of three real life examples you have where the opposite is true: eg “I am good enough because I have lots of friends who love me, I am good enough because I am a great parent, I am good enough because I have a heart that loves deeply” . Or “I’m allowed to take time for my own self care, my needs are important, my family/partner/business benefits when I pursue my own interests”. Write them inside the circle. Thank the old beliefs on the outside for their service to you, and lovingly retire them with a strikethrough.

    4. Identify new behaviours you need to add to your repertoire in order to sustain healthy boundaries between you and others eg: saying “no”, keeping information to yourself, respecting your body, not lending money, asking for more time. Write them at the top of each page as a commitment: “To protect my boundaries I will…”

    5. Hang your pages in a place where you will see them every day, or take photos of them to review each morning. Implement the new boundary building beliefs and behaviors in your life so that your space, privacy and rights are respected and you can live in your powerful truth.


Remember, it is not enough to just set boundaries, it is necessary to be willing to do what it takes to enforce them and honour them. Stay strong, don't give in. When you stand up for yourself, you teach others how to treat you. If people are unwilling to respect your boundaries, ask yourself if they are true friends or people you really want to spend time with. Setting personal boundaries and limits can be very important in how you lead your life and the quality of the relationships you have.

As you begin to set boundaries, remember that each time you set a healthy boundary, you say “yes” to self care and “yes” to more freedom. Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious, respect them and start a revolution.

— Victoria Lucille Fox, Founder, MISS FOX Melbourne

You can follow Victoria @victorialucillefox or join her online Self Care discussion here.


References and further reading:

TherapistAid.com

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/childhood-neglect/2015/07/the-four-kinds-of-boundaries-how-to-build-them/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-to-build-and-preserve-better-boundaries/

https://www.yogiapproved.com/life-2/exercise-no-muscle-set-boundaries-stand/

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13719/how-to-set-boundaries-even-if-you-think-you-cant.html

http://yourzenlife.com/working-with-energy-7-creating-energetic-boundaries/

FULL MOON IN LIBRA (ROUND 2)


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This month we are blessed with a rare and highly potent Libra Blue Moon, traditionally a symbol of the constant wheel of life; the birth-death-rebirth cycle.

Ruled by Venus the planet of love, this second Libra Full Moon deepens our capacity to give & receive love, whilst encouraging transition, healing and rebalancing. 

This months Full Moon makes connections with Uranus, the planet of liberation & Pluto, the great transformer; the Blue Moon encourages us to take a bold act of “self-love” that acts as a catalyst for the  evolution of “unconditional love”. 

This celestial configuration points towards the need to harmonise the self. For this our heart must experience a profound & cathartic release of that which we once held dear, so that we may live in a state of love more fully.

We see this theme mirrored in the word “Aperire” the Latin origin of the name April; meaning “to open”, symbolic of the budding & flowering of Northern Spring. 

When we open our heart wide, stagnant energy flows out, to make room for the fresh incoming abundant flow of nourishing, loving energy instead. 

For some the combined pulse of a Blue Moon with Uranus & Pluto might seem overwhelming, but it is indeed timely. The new dawn it offers is not only much welcomed by our subconscious, but is in fact a great blessing, as ultimately this Moon is ruled by the Goddess of Love & this month is a celebration of all things Venusian! 

Heralding a great sliding-door moment of the heart, this is also a time of auspicious new meetings & deeper transitions within exisiting relationships, both of which can change the course of our lives. 

Whilst a release of the old is required, authentic connection is also encouraged under the beautiful moonbeams of Libra. 

This can be expressed through personal connections & through engaging in past times that we love. 

Venus ruled Libra, particularly loves the arts and luxury. 

So now is the time to get creative, feel inspired through visiting an art gallery & enjoy pampering yourself. Above all though, it’s the perfect moment to share time with friends & family who we deeply resonate with. 


Much Lunar Love,

Natta xx

REDEFINING YOUR SPA EXPERIENCE WITH LIGHT THERAPY

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The relationship between light and the body has been a harmonious yet mysterious one.

It’s been used by long-gone ancient civilisations, early modern medicine, for the exploration of space and more recently as a tool in interactive, proactive and wellness driven applications.

LED therapy for wellness has long established benefits, earning its reputation worldwide for its efficacy in skin rejuvenation and acne treatments. Just like plants, our skin and other body tissues have the ability to absorb light and convert it into energy. LightStim therapy delivers light energy in a way that is easy for our bodies to absorb, with all the benefits of sunshine without the harsh UV radiation and nasty sunburn. 

With adjustable MultiWave patented technology, the LED’s are able to target and engage specific cells to help ease the effects of time, stress, imbalances and gravity.

LightStim offers youthful rejuvenation. Soothing and painless, it can be used types to diminish fine lines and wrinkles. In just 20 minutes, you can recapture your radiant glow, and with multiple sessions lock in that plump radiance.

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Call or book now using the link below to start treating yourself to skin that’s happier and healthier!

LIFE IN THE SLOW LANE, COULD HITTING THE BRAKES AND TAKING A MOMENT HELP YOU?

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What is slow living?

An ideology spurred from the slow food movements in Italy in the 80’s and 90’s, slow living places an emphasis on taking a pause from the rapid and sometimes dizzying pace of urban life and instead taking a more reflective and methodical approach to living. It is purposeful and fulfilling, nourishing and savouring the moments instead of running off to the next. It’s about pacing, steadiness, consistency and considering the long-term surrounding yourself and nature. 
Slow living has its roots in living consciously, with intent and mindfulness — allowing yourself to live more deeply.

There are no hard rules with slow living, it’s a freeform ideology that allows for us to take a breath and slow down; to appreciate where are now. It can be so hard, especially for us driven and goal chasing women, to let go from our busy schedules and really be present in the moment. To be able to comfortably pause between projects, errands and purchases to reflect on and enjoy what we experience in the clutches of the present.

Slow living is about life. The living part, specifically. It’s about paying attention to it and spending time in the noticing. The holding of hands, the sunrises and unknowns. The love and the anger and the joy and the envy. I often find, whilst in the middle of three deadlines, that I’m stressing out now about a position I dreamt about 5 years ago. We so often get distracted by our new goals and ambitions that we forget to appreciate what we’ve already achieved. This doesn’t mean quitting all our projects or taking weeks off at a time, it’s just about considering a pace that allows us to work more deeply and with purpose

This is not a quick fix. I’ve been making changes for years and I’m not there yet. Because there is no there. This isn’t a race with a start and a finish line. This is slow, imperfect, intentional and evolving.


resources:

https://collectivehub.com/2017/10/why-the-slow-living-movement-is-everything-right-now/

https://www.sloww.co/slow-living-301/